The Good Ol' Days
Updated: Jul 11, 2020
"I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them" Andy Bernard, The Office
This quote from Andy Bernard is a perfect summation of how we often look back at our lives. We see everything we left behind as better than the now we currently inhabit. We had better days then, less wrinkles, fewer gray hairs, less tumult. What we don't know, or realize, is that everything we are living now will soon be the good old days. We are always seeking. Seeking some sort of nostalgia from the days we left behind. A reminder from when times were better. We are often living for the past when our present is where we need to be.
A simple hug from my dad often sends me reeling back to my childhood, simply by catching a whiff of Prell, a shampoo we were forced to use during our childhood. God help you if you got that in your eyeballs. It burned, and I remember too many times lying in the shower crying in pain. Incidentally, crying only seemed to exacerbate the condition. Ironic, I know.
But I digress... I am getting off topic here though, I know. It's ok to be wistful for times gone by, but those days are gone. We have to be present in the today, because these days too will be gone soon. Life really is what happens to you when you're not paying attention. You have babies, they too soon become adolescents, soon to be adults. Before you know it, they're out of the house and on their own. I miss them already and mine haven't even left. That's what I'm saying. We start romanticizing the past and never truly embrace now. If someone gave me a crystal ball and told me how my story would end, I don't know that I would want to know it. Would I make all the same choices today that I made then? I don't know. I do know that knowing wouldn't have helped me get from there to here without altering the course of some other choice. That's the thing about life, you can make so many bad choices and you can still be redeemed by making better ones. Looking back in wistfulness isn't helpful if you're miserable where you currently are. Everyone looks back with hindsight at the past, but everything you've lived through only gave you strength to persevere. Smarter, wiser, with a map to navigate through it all with renewed determination. So get moving, enjoy life today, it will be over before you know it, and you want to live it before it's gone.